Friends not finding and linking to friend's sites

Hi, I'm still trying to make the Friends plugin work - its not working properly. Here is the scenario,
1. Find Friends - OK
2. Send email request - OK
3. Inbox notification - OK
4. Approve - OK
5. Lists as Friend - OK
6. Link to site - NO (Inactive link)
7. Sidebar widget - NO friend listed.

In addition to correcting the above functionality, I still want/need this to be a reciprocal friending process. . . any suggestions?