Friends Plugin Widget missing User

I have all of the plugins needed for the friends plugin to work. I have been able to send messages to friends, mark a user as a friend but I am not able to get the friends widget to work on the sidebar of the blog. I can see the heading but that is it. On the admin side I can choose mosaic or list but I don't see the USER dropdown like in the screenshots.

What am I missing?

Thanks,
Helen