Got eNewsletter setup OK; joined my (single) group

Got eNewsletter setup OK; joined my (single) group as a member and sent myself a few test messages. Worked fine.

Commandeered my wife's laptop (she's patient), I subscribed her. She shows up in members as "unassigned" and not as a member of the group. I manually changed her When a newsletter goes out it says sending to 2 members (test group), but only I receive it. Emails directly to her work.

Also, this is set up as a double opt in, but neither I or her receive an confirming emails. Any ideas?