Nav menu highlighting issues

Ok, first I'll need to explain what I did.. (btw Im using Social theme)
(1) I didn't want to show all of the links on my nav menu. So I comment out the following in header.php // do_action( 'bp_nav_items' );

(2) then I just went into navigation.php and added the 2 links that I wanted to keep

<li>
<a href=\"<?php echo $current_siteurl; ?>groups/calendar-events/calendar/\" title=\"Events\">Events</a>
</li>
<li>
<a href=\"<?php echo $current_siteurl; ?>siteforums/" title="Forums">FORUMS</a>
</li>

but how do I Get those two that I added to be highlighted white when on that page (just like Home, members, activity gets highlighted white when on their page)?

Also, two plugins (fast secure contact form, and 'another wordpress classifieds plugin') both highlight themselves, but they also highlight "home" simultaneously. Do you knwo how I woudl stop HOME from being highlighted while Contact or Classifieds is highlighted?

thanks for any help that anyone can offer. :slight_smile: