I am having some issues with the admin bar, and I'm hoping

I am having some issues with the admin bar, and I'm hoping someone here can help me out.

This is my site, and look at how the bar looks now..

http://wasecaconnect.com/

Where it has the "login" link (not the button but the second one) I want that changed to "Register" and link to the registration page, I do not need the login button as I have the login form right there, and there is no register link with it! Also, I want that little noticon thing with the chat bubble in gone, I think it's a wordpress update thing, I only want the buddypress noticon. I would also like to change the "Howdy" to something else. I have tried adding and changing coding and none of that worked, and even tried plugins that were supposed to change it, none of those worked either! That check box for "remember me" also got moved to the left somehow and I have no idea how! Anyone able to help me get this set up right? thanks!