Infinite upgrade loop on Next Gen WPMU

I have looked all thru the WP.org blogs, and have spent about 30 hours on trying to fix the issue. So ultimately my problem stemed from simply wanting to change the homepage slide show images using my BP Fun theme. I downloaded NextGen Gallery and when I activate it on the Super Admin Site or the Blog sites, it still says on the blog sites, upgrade to use. The wp.org sites suggested adding templates to the wp_options.php file but thats unclear.

please help