Multisite Activation (WP 3.1 Multisite)

This has to be a simple fix.
I installed BuddyPress and "network activate" it. I do not want to have it active on my main site but when you go to that sites dashboard to deactivate it, the BuddyPress plugin does not appear. I can believe that I cant activate it for all blogs and not be able to deactivate it on certain sites. Is there a plugin or manual way to get this done?