Need help with bbPress forum and media uploader

Hi there - I'm creating my first buddypress site. The client wants members to be able to upload images and embed videos into the forum topics. I think there's something wrong, because in the bbPress help file it says the rich editor on forum pages should show the media uploader icon, but on my install it doesn't. I tried adding the bbpress tool bar plugin, but it broke my theme (premium). Not sure how to fix it and i've been unable to find someone who knows buddypress/bbPress well enough to help me. Maybe you guys do?

PS the site is but it's a membership site and the forums are protected.