permalink problem

Buddypress is forcing me to update my permalinks to something other than default. When I update to a different permalink structure all of my "pages" are broken("posts" still link correctly). Regardless if the permalinks are in default or not the top bar with "activities", "members", "groups", "forum" all redirect to the home page. Also, my buddpress bar with "my account", "my blogs", etc... does the same. I do notice that when I try to update permalinks it forces me to use "/blog/" at the beginning. It didn't start doing any of this until I updated to MU, buddypress, and bbpress. On a single WP install it was fine. PLEASE HELP. I am pulling my hair out here.....