Protected Content and Buddy Press Register, login etc

I set up registration with buddypress and protected content
after registration user gets this message:
"Registration Complete

Your request to join the membership was successfully received!
The Payment Gateway could take a couple of minutes to process and return the payment status.
Visit your account page for more information."

1. There is no way for user to realize he is logged in
2, there is no way for user to log out
3. I do not want any reference to payment status as all memberships are free
4. I do not want them to go to account
5. When user comes back to the site another time - there is no way for user to login again or even know how to log in

Please let me know step by step how to fix this
Please take the time to read my questions and answer them step by step