Social Theme

I have been trying to get my head around buddy press on the Social theme for about 40 hrs now. A friend has also had a go at getting it up and running. There must be something we are missing? Is there anybody that would be willing to set me up with the Social theme using buddy press and the group forums working? have read hrs of info and watched videos. Works for everybody else? i'm guessing that somebody that has done it a few times can do it in 5min
Cheers