Upgrade issues

So I went to upgrade to 3.0 and everything went wonky.... so I figured I did somthin wrong so I deleted the theme and reinstalled fresh... first with a child and without...

I cant customize what I want anymore in the theme options, cant go to blueproduct or greenproduct or even default.css and edit my settings there.

Im in the process of adding everything to my child.css that I want but that just wont be an option to the average users since they wont have that kinda access.

Is this an oversight on my part or did it not get upgraded correctly or what? Or is it just that this ONLY can be used with buddypress now. I had not been using buddypress as I figured a bunch of seperate online stores dont need much networking but if I need to I suppose I can add that feature.

Thanks.