Pardon the blood, but I've been hitting my head against the wall for days now...
What I'm trying to achieve sounds simple enough, but...
How can you display notifications (with counts) for Friend Request, Forum Replies (subscribed/own topics) and Messages (general mix is fine).
I've trawled through the bp_core_get_notifications_for_user() function found in bp-members/bp-member-notification.php#83, but just can't see how this might do it for me, even after this enlightening post by Boone Gorges (go google! :~).
I've been able to move, modify and generally rearrange most of the other aspects of the admin bar, but this one has me whipped.
Any help would be gratefully appreciate.
New thought::If anyone knows of a theme or plugin that achieves this to some degree I would be happy to dig in and see what could be re-engineered to suit my purposes.