wp 3.0 add on blog themes not showing options link in appearence

Hello
I have downloaded and installed the 133 farm pack
i tried it with a few themes when I activate a theme I get the options link and also check the custom menu options (this is very important to me). custom menu is a separate issue so I will explain that after the options problem.
the options are there and configurable.
when a add on site activates a theme there is no options link under appearance
I just checked a few themes and same problem.
one theme I checked works as expected be custom menus does not.

Custom menus
The same themes that were checked the custom menus do not work.
this is the exact message I get from menus section
(The current theme does not natively support menus, but you can use the “Custom Menu” widget to add any menus you create here to the theme’s sidebar.)

The reason I have joined was this very reason I was finding on the free themes site, thinking the theme authors have not updated there themes with proper code.
Now I have the felling I was wrong or is the themes not updated or do I have a problem?
the themes I have before installing the 133 farm pack worked
2010 theme
2010 weaver
2010 inverted

I Have the following plugins installed activeted
supporter-2.2.2
ad-sharing-1.1.1
domain-mapping-3
advanced-theme-switcher-1.0.3
automatic-follow-up-emails-for-new-users-1.0.4

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